As Valentine’s Day approaches, trying to find ways to create intimacy and connect with others can feel quite difficult, especially with the current state of affairs putting a damper on a lot of future plans. Having clothing that makes us feel sexy seems few and far in between, and as a larger bodied person, the options that I have for lingerie and fetishwear are slim to none. All of this, coupled with the rise of virtual dating as one of the only options to engage with partners, can intensify anxieties around creating the same in-person looks for on-screen interactions.
Luckily, after scouring my closet and pairing some looks with Lovelorn Lingerie’s Hauteur Strappy Leather Neck Harness, I felt a new sense of sex appeal and allure.
This was my first time exploring women’s harness fashion, and I am so happy that I selected such a well-crafted and simple yet detailed item. Now, without further ado, let’s jump into three ways to style this strappy, handmade leather harness!
Day Fit/ Munch Fit
With so many Google Meet Munches and Meet and Greets happening, incorporating this black chest harness into an all leather outfit adds the much needed pizzaz to catch the eye of your admirers. When going to kink events, as a Switch, I try my best to choose outfits to fit the theme of what D/s position I am trying to express, and with this harness the category is most definitely “Leather Daddy Realness”. Selecting a strapless crop top and high waisted pant set as the base, coupled with a matching beret to complete the look, the gold embellishments on this piece ties this outfit together in a wonderful package that is sure to make you stand out in a sea of Zoom screens.
Party Night Fit
During this season of love and lust, nothing screams Valentine’s Day more than a pop of red. This Sunday, I play to wow my partner in an oxblood, ribbed, off-the-shoulder number, a leather, lace up waist cincher and the Hauteur Harness as the centerpiece. Choosing a purple, smokey makeup look also helps to add much-needed sensuality to this look. Don’t forget to include a matching flogger to bring out your inner Dom(me) while you bring your lover to their knees.
Although lingerie is a go-to look for Love Day, the best way to let this harness shine is by being topless and allowing it to be the star of the show. As a plus size fashionista, being comfortable in my own skin is the primary goal, and what better way than to do that than to show some skin and letting this harness do all the talking! This harness is not only adjustable to allow for more movement but also looks great against all skin tones. Want to add more mystery to this look? Adding a Black bra and a lacy panty will also add to any virtual play party or intimate encounter.
Thanks to Lovelorn and their size- inclusive line of handcrafted leather goods, trying out plus size leather style has inspired me to use this harness in as many looks as possible. Whether you are in the kink community or not, this harness will spice up any V-day look.
*Note: Masks not included in photos, but please wear your mask when you leave your home. Stay safe, stay sexy!*
Written by Cheyenne Davis – Web, Instagram: @cheymodee